I am so angry right now. I was going to have a nice little lie down after checking twitter, but in doing so I came across a blog that was titled ‘My Beef with BabyWise.’ Don’t know who wrote it and and I’m not linking to it, but there’s the title if you want to google it.
I shouldn’t have read it. I’ve read these type of blogs before, and they always make me cranky. This one in particular, made my blood boil. I am so pissed off right now! (And that is strong language for me!)
It’s not that I am so blinded by Baby Wise, or any of the parenting books or courses that Growing Families International puts out, that I can’t bear the thought of anyone disagreeing, because I’m not. God gave your kids to you because you were the best person to raise them. How you do that is your God given choice, and the consequences, negative or positive are yours as well.
Do I believe in BabyWise?
Has it worked for me?
Should everyone do baby wise?
If they want to.
Should people who disagree with the principles, and decide that it is antagonistic with their parenting philosophy get on the Internet and publicly degrade one of the founders of the principles?
My two biggest beefs with the anti-baby wise blogs are these.
The idea that parents whom let their children cry in a controlled setting, for the purpose of learning to sleep, are somehow anti-biblical because God is a God of love, and the baby doesn’t understand what is going on.
Well let’s just be realistic people. Life is hard. Sometimes life sucks!
Does God save us from every little thing?
Do we understand why?
But is he standing by ready to soothe and protect when we have worked ourselves into a hysterical, sobbing mess?
God is not mean, but he does allow us to go through things when he knows that we will be better off for it. That sounds kind of cliched, and I’m sure there is more to it than that, but for the purpose of this discussion, let’s simplify it. We don’t know why bad things happen. God doesn’t make bad things happen, but he doesn’t always stop them either. Trust is learnt in the hard times, when we cant see the forest for the trees.
I cannot see any purpose in me having Post Natal Depression, but I know that by God’s grace not only can I make it through this, I will be better for it.
The idea that letting a baby cry for a short time being completely contrary to God’s character is unbiblical and categorically untrue!
My second problem is this: the majority of these blogs (ok the two I have read) come from Christians. That’s ok, Christians are allowed to have an opinion and speak their mind, but come on people! If you can read your bible enough to know that ‘God is love,’ how dare you publicly degrade and and defame a fellow brother? Shame on you! How will the world ever see the light of Christ in us, when we are busy dragging each other through the mud?Speak your mind on the principles; present your opinion. But leave the man out of it. If he really is so wrong, let God deal with him and stop being so damn hypocritical!
I do not know Gary Ezzo, but I have watched enough of his parenting courses that I feel I understand his heart.
Furthermore I have met many advocates of Growing Families International, many regional leaders, and roving ambassadors that have met the Ezzo’s and know their heart. These are not people who are creating a program for money or fame; they are disciples following what they believe God has called them to do, by promoting what they believe to be a biblical view on parenting. Their interest is in raising a generation of children that not only sleep through the night, but make God look good.
I’m going on the record to say that I believe Gary Ezzo to not only be a good man, but a Godly man, and that’s not because of BabyWise. That’s because of who he is.
Let’s not get the method confused with the man!
So I have said my peace. I’m sorry if that made no sense to you whatsoever or offended you, but I feel strongly about this and couldn’t keep quiet. Christian’s shouldn’t be bagging each other out, but supporting each other.
Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything. (1 4:8 MSG)
Because I am so over this argument, and feel like in some ways it is just a waste of time, I won’t be publishing any more comments. Feel free to leave them, as I will still receive them for moderation, and will endeavor to respond personally. My response to this whole issue is summed up in a new blog post, which you can view here.