So I started watching this absolutely mind blowing series on the way the brain works, and how negative thinking can cause depression as well as just about everything else, and I realised I spend a whole lot of my time beating myself up. I’m my own worst critic, quick to jump on all my failures and wallow in a pit of self pity and extreme dramatism.
This kind of thinking is not helpful, so in the spirit of all great turn arounds, I decided instead to see if I have super woman qualities.
Being as there is hardly a check list for what qualifies as the modern day Super Mum, I thought I’d go old school, and check out proverbs in the Bible. Any church goers out there will know that the ‘Proverbs 31 Woman’ is the great bench mark amongst which all women should try to live, and she can be rather depressing, cause let’s face it, no one can live up to her standard.
Or can they?
Taking another look, and a more modern day approach, I realised I might not be doing too bad.
The super woman myth, may actually be a myth.
The proverbs 31 aka Super Woman
As described by Jess
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Well of course I am!
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
True. Boatman always comes home to either a home cooked meal, or takeaway, and the possibility of getting lucky.*
She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.
I have been known to travel two or three suburbs over to get the best deals on…. Well shoes, but sometimes fruit and veg. And most mornings it’s still dark when Ava calls me to wake up and feed her. Or I get Taylah and Bridie (female servants perhaps. ;)) to orchestrate breakfast preparations whilst I shower. (I’m not the only one who does that right?)
She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
I always take careful consideration of which wine is drinking nicely, and then day dream about building my very own vineyard.
I think I may have missed the point here…
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
I can scrub spaghetti sauce out of the bottom of a pan, whilst simultaneously juggling a wingeing toddler on my hip.
Not well, but I can do it.
She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
I am committed to staying up late at night to win the auction on eBay, because I knows how much money that will save
In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
I have no idea what these are, but give me an iPad or a wooden spoon, and there isn’t much I can’t do.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
Well I personally have no fear of snow, because I live in Darwin, but yes my children are all adequately clothed, and I will shop for them if forced to!
Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
We don’t have a city gate, but apparently all the divers on Boatman’s boat
are scared of have a healthy level of respect for him
She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
I may need to open an etsy store…. I have made costumes for my kids for book week? Does that count as supplying the merchants with sashes?
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
I can walk out of the house with crazy hair, baby vomit on my shirt, and poo on my shorts, and still hold my head up high. And the days to come…. Well they look pretty good from here.
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
I try my best, and my wisdom tooth is making its presence known so I’m clearly very wisdomous
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
And watching over their affairs will be much easier once all the kids are on Facebook…
Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
Boatman, to his credit, does only say wonderful things about me, and although sometimes I’m sure my children must hate me, for the most part they do think I’m the best mum in the world, so a big check for this column.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. (Proverbs 31:10-12, 14-19, 21, 23-30 NIV)
Thank God I’m not charming, and can someone pass the oil of Olay?**
Whats one thing you have done well lately?
*Boatman kindly pointed out that whilst he always gets dinner, even a homeless man with no friends has the possibility of getting lucky every night.
**All kidding aside, I think as people we are all pretty amazing, and our talents lie in different areas. There is no point in comparing; just embracing who we are.