There is a proverb that says a merry heart does good like a medicine.
When I first discovered this Thankful Thursday link up, I wasn’t in a very thankful place. It was a difficult day I remember, but I scrambled through my brain to find one thing that I could write in a comment.
Now it is part of my regular blogging posts. Not because my life is all peaches and cream, but because I like the way it has changed my perspective. I now go about the week looking for things to blog about on thursdays. Some weeks it’s harder than others, but I generally find something.
My two big girls have been having awful issues at school. A lot of it is to do with nasty friends, but there are other factors as well. Our after school catch ups have become characterised by complaining, and overly long, detailed explanations of who did what to whom.
It has been exhausting.
One of the results of this play yard nastiness is that Bridie doesn’t want to go to school. As soon as she realises it’s on the cards, the excuses come out, and her attitude becomes overly negative and critical. It’s obvious that something needs to be done about the situation, and boatman and I are discussing options, but in the meantime I have had enough.
So on Tuesday, I tried something new.
I told the girls that when they came home, I wanted to hear 3 good things that had happened that day.
It worked really well.
Before we had even got to the car, Taylah was bursting to tell me her good news. Her entire attitude had done a complete 180. She actually found 8 things she could tell me.
With Bridie it was a bit different. (I knew it would be.) She was determined to be miserable and told me nothing good had happened. Because I had expected this, I had set her up to succeed. I had given her a lunch order that morning (a rare and exciting treat), and also packed her lunchbox with lots of coveted items. So straight away she had two things to be happy about.
Building on that, I asked her questions, but framed them so she had to give a positive answer. In the end she came up with 6 good things. (but then complained cause Taylah had more!)
I’ve been really trying to emphasis with my kids that life isn’t always fair. That sometimes bad things happen, and sometimes other people have more than us. But instead of looking at what we don’t have, we need to be happy with what we do have.
I like to be a parent who leads by example, and who learns the lesson with the kids. So I am thankful for Thankful Thursday, and how it has changed my perspective.
I’m a firm believer that life is what we make it, and out attitude changes our circumstances. Thankfulness is such a good thing to practice, because it makes even the hard times a little easier.
So thanks to Kate for starting this up, and thanks to blogger for letting me join in.
What are you thankful for today?
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