So just as I sit down to write this, having an organised activity for the children, Bailey managed to cut his finger, and then have a melt down over a band aid. With the girls, any small spot needs a band aid, but apparently for my tough little man, the thought of staunching the flow of blood emanating from his finger, is just too much.
Ok, so that was a bit dramatic, but we have play group this morning, and it needed protection from the effects of dirt and God knows what else.
So back to the planned post. Just over a couple of weeks ago, I blogged about our lolly jar experiment. It was an effort to get the kids thinking more about all the the little jobs they neglect to do, or all the things they just leave lying around.
Well hold on to your hats (?) cause this is where I tell you how it went!
It was….kind of mixed. Sorry for the anticlimax, but if you’re reading this you’re no doubt familiar enough with kids and/or parenting to know that anticlimax’s come with the territory.
Here is why.
Bailey was just too little. We thought that going into it, but we could hardly give the girls a jar of lollies and not him could we? At the end of the week he actually had the most, because of his age. There was less that we could hold him accountable for. When it comes to cleaning, he will usually happily do what he is told. The only set back is that one, he gets distracted very easily. And two, as a boy his standard of clean is vastly different from mine.
On the positive side, his behaviour all week was pretty good, as he seemed to be living under the constant fear that if he was naughty we would steal his skittles. I guess the way to a boys heart really is through his stomach.
Bridie didn’t get, or refused to accept her responsibility in the process. Out of all the kids she is naturally the tidiest; she has a sense of order and a place for everything.
But Unfortunately she also resists authority, and is happy to clean when she is happy to clean. As a result she completely missed the point of the exercise. She thought we were just being mean and stealing her lollies. She didn’t seem to get that it was in her control.
Maybe she was too young for it too, or maybe we just need to do some more training with her. Help her realise that negative consequences are a result of her actions, not my whimsy.
Taylah lost the most, but also because she has the most responsibility. Because of her age, we expect more. She knew this, and she was ok about it. With her I would say it was a success. There has been a small improvement since (not as much as I would have hoped), but any improvement is a good thing.
So now for the final photos. (Sent from my iPhone because the PC is terminal.)
The kids jars were filled past their names at the start of the week.
And ours was empty.
All in all, Im glad we tried this, and I’ll probably revisit the lesson in the Christmas holidays when they are all a little older, and (hopefully) wiser.
And in the meantime I’ll just eat my skittles.