The problem is, when I was in the height of AND and PND, I didn’t want to talk about it. I wanted to ignore it, and pretend it didn’t exist, and just get over it. I certainly didn’t want anyone asking me about it, or checking in to see of I was ok. I wanted to be left alone.
So don’t talk about it. Hide it, bury it, pretend it’s not there. Do whatever is necessary to make sure people still believe you are wonder woman, and don’t need any help. Under no circumstances should you tell people that no, you are not ok. And if they keep asking, avoid them at all costs.
Even now, those lies creep in, telling me I’m not good enough. Telling me I’m a failure as a wife and mother. Telling me that there is nothing worthwhile about who I am.
If I could declare war on depression I would. I would kick it in the teeth and tell it to get lost. If it were possible, I would look everywoman in the eye who has struggled with this and tell her, ‘you are beautiful, you are worthwhile, and most importantly, you are good enough.’
His actions, and his love made me realise it’s ok to not be ok. It’s ok to say it’s not ok. I doesn’t make me a failure.
So say it with me now.
I am good enough just the way I am.
I am an incredible, beautiful human being.
I am a-MAZE-ing.
And anyone who tries to tell me otherwise (including myself) is a liar.
In case you were wondering, in the words of my friend Gemma
R U OK? Day is a national call to action to connect with people. To start a conversation. It is about listening, it is about noticing, it is about caring. It is not about having all the answers, but rather knowing where to go to access the answers should you need to.
The following are some recommended help and information contacts:
* beyondblue info line (National) – 1300 22 4636
* Lifeline (National) – 13 11 14
* Just Ask Rural Mental Health Information & Referral Line (National) – 1300 13 11 14
* SANE Australia Helpline (National) – 1800 187 263
* Suicide Helpline – 1300 651 251
* Mensline (National) – 1300 789 978
* Australian Psychological Society Referral Line (National) 1800 333 497
* Mental Health Information Service (NSW) – 1300 794 991
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