I’m feeling oddly contemplative at the moment, which sucks because I feel like all my posts have been very serious of late, and we need something light.
Who knows. Maybe tomorrow.
I’ve got a situation preying on my mind. I won’t go into details because I don’t think that’s right, but suffice to say it has got me thinking about character and what is really important. Even more, what do I want to be known for?
I know that we’re not supposed to care what people think of us, and I agree wholeheartedly in that concept. If you want to wear hot pink jeans whilst listening to Justin Beiber and dancing down the street, you should be able to do that without a care in the world. No one should judge you for who you are, what you like, what you do or what you believe.
Having said that, I also believe that peoples perceptions about us are incredibly important, and can inhibit or encourage us. And those perceptions generally come from our actions, or whatever they are perceived to be.
So back to my situation; I’m concerned that my actions towards one person, have been misconstrued by someone else, and because of this, have painted me in a negative light. Now for the record, the actions include showing nothing but kindness and friendship, but sometimes even being genuine can be turned into something else. One could argue that this is not my problem, except that it is. Because whatever I have done, wrong or not, I have hurt someone.
And I really hate to hurt people.
I realise it is impossible to please everyone all the time, but honestly, I really do do my best. Not by conforming to their way of life or beliefs, but by trying, in all situations, to live peaceably with everyone, and to consider the preciousness of others.
stolen from Kirri White’s Facebook Page
I hope that’s how I come across.
In thinking about this this afternoon, I realised, that despite the fact that I put so much of my life on line here, does anyone really know me? In many ways, I would think that the readers here know me better than many of my offline connections, but then on the flip side, this is such a limited relationship. If I say one thing that comes across differently than I intended, there is no room for me to defend or explain myself, unless I am questioned on it deliberately.
And it’s not just words. A wrong word can say the wrong thing, but sometimes tone is not conveyed accurately. I read many posts where, the author, at the end sets a disclaimer on the posts cheekiness. In most of these, it’s obvious, but I can understand the need to clarify. A funny comment like “my awesomeness” (which I have been known to say more than once) can easily be seen as arrogance when the writer probably meant the exact opposite. What was meant as a funny, self deprecating piece of writing, soon becomes a conceited post banging on about the bloggers merits.
I guess what it comes down to, is that every word we say has meaning; every action has a consequence, and so our responsibility to the rest of humanity is to carefully examine ourselves, so that we can have confidence that we have done the best that we can.
With this in mind, one of my new ords for this year will be Integrity. (Added to Stretch) I want to be a woman that is known for thinking of others and putting them first, and yet remains true and consistent to who she is. A person that lives her life honestly thinking ‘What Would Jesus Do?’
A person that can authentically look at what the world sees her as, and change if need be, or decide that who she is is enough anyway.
How much weight do you place on others perceptions of you?
Is integrity something you highly value?