I’ll admit it. I find it easy to judge people. I’m not proud of it, and it is something I work at constantly. There are times when I physically remove myself from situations or turn away, because I refuse to be that kind of person. I want to be a humble, accepting person, who loves unconditionally. This does not come naturally. It requires work.
One of the easiest ways for anyone to judge another person, is in the area of parenting. All the big debates over breast or bottle, ceaser or natural, smacking or not, cloth nappies or disposable (and the list goes on), come because people like to judge. To assume that they know what is best for everyone else, based on what has worked for them, and what is obviously clear from their own experience with their own children.
But the fact of the matter, is, none of us have a clue.
We don’t live in each others houses, we don’t raise each others children, and we have no idea what kind of day, week, or year the woman at the supermarket with the screaming child has had.
Your methods of child rearing are quite possibly completely opposite to mine, and you know what? That’s ok. When I write these heart training posts, it’s not because I’m telling you what you should do. Rather it’s me sharing what I’ve learned to maybe help you guide your child to make right choices from their heart, rather than from the fear of reproof or desire for reward.
And that seems to be what most people want right?
Any how, the judging thing. It’s wrong, I try not to do it.
But sometimes I can’t help myself.
So I do.
So today’s post is all about some famous kids and what their parents are obviously doing wrong.
This pig is at once compelling, and annoying. She is very charismatic, but at the same time, she has little respect for her family and her parents.
Poor Ian (her little brother) is often treated as a second class citizen, and seriously, her mum just needs to say no sometimes, and enforce it. No is never no for Olivia, it’s always a starting point for negotiation, and her mother is often run ragged trying to keep up.
Charlie and Lola
Now I love these two. I’ve often pointed out to my own kids what a great big brother Charlie is. He is kind, and compassionate and very, very patient.
And his parents take him for granted. That poor kid is trying to feed his little sister vegetables, put her to bed and do a whole bunch of other stuff that completely exhausts most adults, let alone a sibling.
Lola also walks all over him. I would really like to see these two as teenagers.
The Little Princess
Does anyone like this show? I mean, seriously? It’s about a spoilt brat of a kid who gets everything she wants cause she will be queen someday.
I don’t get the appeal, and what’s the country going to be like with her in charge?
I turn this off as soon as it comes on. Taylah is an expert at trying to do things the easy way, without any further encouragement from a lazy cartoon character.
I don’t understand why someone would make a kids show about this kind of attribute. Hardworking Hilda probably wouldn’t be quite as interesting though…..
Personally I don’t have a problem with this; I just put it in for my dad’s sake. He thinks Sesame Street teaches kids to interrupt. I think interrupting comes natural and that sesame street is just fun.
The truth is, in watching all these shows, I can use the behaviours of the characters to talk with my kids about what is acceptable and what’s not, and I’m not encouraging judging behaviour in them. Another child’s tantrum in the shops is usually met with stares from my kids, as if they have never done it themselves. Sometimes they even say ‘they are being very naughty aren’t they mum?’
In those moments, I say, ‘you do that yourself sometimes, so you don’t have a right to say anything,’ because I don’t want to encourage condemnation.
ABC2 provides the perfect ground for object lessons instead.
Which cartoon parent do you think is the worst?
Does judging come way to easy for you too?